Know Your True Worth

True worth can’t be seen, measured, or bought. It’s why popularity, status, titles, achievements, riches, and stuff still leave us striving for more. True worth comes from what God knows about you and not what people think of you. True worth is decided by God, your Designer. It is not determined by how much you’ve…

The Labels We Wear

I grew up in the era of Jordache jeans and Adidas sneaks. Think Gap and Nike. I owned neither because they were too expensive. I would’ve given anything to have even one pair, but the closest I came to them were seeing them on kids at school 🤷‍♀️. Labels are important to a young girl…

Mirror Mirror, I Don’t Like What I See

Ok, so this isn’t me in the mirror but this is my shadow/profile 😁. As warped as it looks, it isn’t far from how I see myself. You see, I have a pretty distorted view of myself. The image I see in the physical mirror and the mirror in my mind is often not what…

More Than a Number

I was doing fine until I saw the numbers. I knew I shouldn’t have gone there. But I did. You see, I had stepped onto the little balancing instrument which measures my worth. I gasped and strained my eyes to make sure I was seeing the right numbers. They were a smidget higher than I…

Why I Ditched the Daisy Dukes

Oh yeah, I owned some daisy dukes back in the day 🙄. I admit, it did feel good to fit in them. Especially after I lost the freshman 20 from college. Back then you wouldn’t have found modesty in my closet because I didn’t think it was important. Many will say it’s my prerogative what…

When You’re Too Much Yet Not Enough

I feel this way more often than not. It’s as if there are 2 personalities wrestling inside of me. One feels she is too much. The other thinks she is not enough. I think I’m too much of the undesirable and not enough of the desirable. Too much of who I don’t want to be…

God Knows Your Name

I hated my name growing up. I dreaded each new school year with new teachers because they would butcher my name and I’d have to give them the “adapted” pronunciation. I’d timidly muster up the courage to say, “Phu” as my classmates giggles and snickers. Kids can be cruel and adults aren’t kind either. My…

Identity Confusion

When you don’t know your identity, you will attempt to identify with others and lose your God-given, unique identity.

Is Popularity a Big Deal?

Popularity. It’s overrated. Of course I didn’t think so in high school. I remember watching the popular girls from a distance and wishing they’d include me in their circles. They were so pretty and wore clothes I could only dream of owning. Their hair and make-up was spot on. I envied them. And secretly I…